Let It Go
How many times in your life have you experienced adversity in some form or fashion?
Whether it be heartache from a broken relationship, betrayal, loss of a job, didn’t get the home you wanted, your best friend lied to you, sickness, debt, or anything that makes you feel bad and you can’t stop thinking about it.
You go over and over it in your mind. How it happened. Why it happened. What they said to you. What you said to them. What you wish you would have said instead. How you can change things. If you can change things. If you can’t, how do you deal with it and on and on and on.
It’s a normal reaction to process the what-if’s and if-only’s. You need that time to put your head back on straight and access how you are going to move forward.
It’s the perfect time for a little introspection on what you can learn from this and how it can make you grow.
After the shock and awe of the situation begins to subside it’s time to pick up the pieces and move on.
But what most people do instead is they dwell on it and spiral deeper into this abyss of self-destructive thinking that does absolutely nothing to help them accept it and let it go.
The reality is that no matter how much you think about it, it doesn’t change what happened.
In essence, you are wasting your time and energy wishing things weren’t the way they are, when you could be using that energy to begin to create your life without that person or thing or situation in it.
You can’t control what other people do. You can’t control when things don’t go the way you wanted. You can’t control everything life puts on your plate. But, what you can control is how you choose to deal with it.
And, when you choose to let it go and move on, that my friend is the difference between agony and peace.
Resistance to “what is” is the best way to make yourself miserable. Until you can learn to accept “what is” and make up your mind to let it go you will continue to suffer.
The other part of this equation for peace in your life is to understand that everything always works out in the end. It’s called faith. Knowing that everything is working out for your good.
I have a friend who thought she found the house of her dreams. To her, everything about it was perfect. She wanted it so badly that’s all she talked about. She was trying to push her husband to act quickly etc. Needless to say, for whatever reasons they did not get the house. Well, it didn’t end there for her. She kept wanting it and asking what she could do to change things. She couldn’t let it go.
I asked her, “where is your faith?” She of all people should know that God would provide her with this house or something better and that is where she should focus her attention. Not on what is gone and done with.
People write to me often about the heartache they feel when someone they love walks out of their life. Of course there is the normal grieving process. It comes fraught with an entire gamut of emotions that you go through; which in no way is to be discounted.
But, ultimately whether you choose to let it go or hold on to it will determine your peace of mind and happiness.
Ask yourself this, “What good does it do for me to hold onto something that makes me feel sad?”
What is the point of holding onto something that is over and done? Does it help your or hurt you?
If you have a choice to be happy or sad, to move on or hold on; what would you choose?
Only you can control what you think and do and say. What is your choice?
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.”
Wishing you a week blessed with peace of mind! LOVE…Susan